#budgeting

USDA inflation-adjusted: $310K from birth to 18. Add $80K of childcare (heaviest in years 0-5). Add $100-300K for college. Realistic US total: $400K-$700K per child. Child #2 typically runs 60-70% of #1.

Average US wedding hits $33-35K. Compounded at 7% real for 30 years that's ~$250K of wealth. The $10K alternative gets the same legal outcome and similar memories. Where each option makes sense.

Banks approve based on debt-to-income ratios. They don't care about retirement, kids, or whether you'll be house-poor. Here's the gap between 'qualified' and 'comfortable' on a $100K salary.